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Live Wakes Celebrating Life. 

The history of living funerals or live wakes is a ritual from our past because the act of gathering around the dying person to uplift them actually dates back centuries when dying was a social affair attended by the family and community. The dying person would give long-winded speeches about his or her wisdom gained in life and family members would gather to listen and express love and gratitude, but the ritual died in the twentieth-century when death moved out of the home and community and into the hospital.

Sometimes, people don’t learn the most interesting experiences about a person until the funeral. A live wake celebration offers a time to really learn about the “whole life” of a person.. .So when might a person chose to indulge in such a ritual? Today, most people know when their time is short and the body is in irreparable decline. Many people deny it to themselves and those around them for self-preservation and protection of the family. The live wake is so instrumental in stimulating the family and friends to begin to talk about the possibility of the end. It’s not talking about death but rather life. The ritual binds everyone in a way they thought impossible at this stage of life, because people can have the microphone to say words of love fun times and friendship knowing the honouree is hearing it. It’s so gratifying especially at an hour when we as humans feel completely out of control. They call the end of life awful, well a good ritual shatters isolation and leads the way to transformation. It’s a remarkable gift to give as a parting gift and an extraordinary memory to leave in the minds of survivors.

Celebrating Life Ceremonies

                                                                                             peace-tree-b-1200x600   The art  of dying gracefully is nowhere advertised, in spite of the fact that its market potential would be  enormous, its true. This is an emotional time to be making decisions when there are no instructions to follow, what to do with ones who have crossed this mysterious threshold before us. These days people are developing their own philosophies on life and couldn’t want to have a religious service. It could be unsettling if a religious service is carried out for someone who had no religious belief.  Spiritual ceremonies and alternative rituals can play a central role acknowledging the completion of a person’s life. If you are organizing your own farewell celebration (a live wake)  congratulations you’ll have a fabulous farewell just how you wish for it to be. If you’re arranging one for a friend who has left no instructions then you have to do the best when deciding how to obtain  a personalized celebration. The unique tale of a friend’s lifetime journey can be an expression of music along with sharing stories of different times in their life can be healing.  Ceremonies are designed to celebrate and rejoice, they are done with grace to lift the energy and reflect positively on the completion of life. Do everything with gracious style that will never be forgotten, it will weave together and nourish all who gather to pay tribute.

Life is very simple, but we insist on making it complicated~~~Confucius